4/9/2018

Dear Family,

                How does it happen that my daughter has turned 17 so fast?  How is it that we have lived in Salem 11 years and seems like we just got here?  How does the time fly so fast?  I am so glad it does.  I may have some angst over the late night's teens keep, but if they make a mess, they clean it.  In the nursery this Sunday I changed my first diaper in years.  It wasn’t that bad, but I would much rather have teens.  They may stay up late, but I don’t have to at all.  They prefer I go to bed early.

                Adriel had a great Birthday week.  Her friends gave her presents, and so did we.  Grandma and Grandpa Leng came over to take her out for lunch and then ice cream.  Bobby cooked her favorite meal and gave her flowers.  Bobby, Adriel and her special friend went out to a movie together, and everyone lived to tell about it.  Who could ask for more?

                This week I was blessed because the kids did weeds without me asking.  I know Bobby told them to and that was very nice.

                Bobby also cooked another meal, this time my favorite.  Yum!  It’s nice when he is glad I’m awake at night.  Sometimes my naps help me stay awake even after youth group.  I like feeling welcome and loved.

                Seth is adorable because of how much he loves Ripley.  He holds her and pets her while she purrs.  He even broke open a box because he said her head was hanging out wrong.  To me, it’s very sweet how he does caring things for our kitty.

                I love it that the kids pray with me at night.  The best is the daily hug that comes after.  Seth and Adriel are sweet, and I love them. 

I also love seeing Seth in the sound booth at church.  He is the one who gets the e-mails, so I never know when he will be there, but Seth knows.  I feel a heartwarming surprise every time he’s serving God.

As you face decisions, plans and life may you find God’s guiding hand to be a wonderful reminder of how good it is to let go of control.  May you rejoice in the new flowers and may you enjoy all the beauty God is bringing forth.

Much Love J Cristy

4/2/18

Dear Family,

Right now I am simply reflecting on how wonderful it is that Jesus cared enough to die for us and had enough power to rise from the dead.  That is a “Wow” thing.  Other than the amazing fact that a being far superior to me cares and interacts with me, this week has many other blessings as well, also some funny things.

We have babies!  I don’t know if they are Sunflowers or watermelon, but either one I’m excited to see them popping up and I planted more.  I know I spread sunflower seeds in the fall before I toss out the heads.  I barely remember putting some watermelon out there just to get rid of the packet maybe a month ago.  How fun, maybe we will reap what I did sow even though I don’t water anymore.

Seth had many fillings done this week.  It’s a blessing we have dental care.  Seth declared that Naproxen Sodium is great stuff after the novocaine wore off.  He didn’t like the feeling of numbness and worried a tooth or two might fall out.  I thought that was pretty cute.

I must mention how fun Seth was on the way home from Best Buy with his new computer.  He would have hugged it on his lap the whole time if it was small enough but it wasn’t.  He put it in the back seat because “It could break” in the trunk.  Then he told me to drive with “No sudden stops.”  There is tempered glass on one entire side, so he was concerned about the glass breaking.  It was adorable.

Another fun incident this week was when Seth was feeling frustrated that Ripley doesn’t come to him when he calls her.  I gave him the treat bag and told him to jiggle it while he called her.  He jiggled the bag and Ripley came running – to me.  We had to laugh; then he called her while jiggling the bag and she came to him.  (If he wants to train her he has to have treats.)

Seth mowed the lawn and helped with dishes while Adriel and Bobby were gone.  Seth also thanked me for making Lasagna.  Our rule is you have to thank the person for cooking (making an effort).  If you thank them for making the specific food that’s a bonus.

It is a blessing to have Bobby and Adriel home.  Adriel was able to draw two drawings this weekend, and that is a real blessing to me. 

I enjoyed watching a movie with Bobby on Saturday.  It was nice to spend some time with him.  Also, no murders on the trip.  Adriel and her special friend even held hands, and everyone survived.

May you grasp how deep and how wide God’s love is.  May you know His power and might.  May you seek His wisdom and find it.  Hugs,  Cristy

I am Against Violent Vidoe Games

4/1/18 Dear Family,  When the Bible talks about violence, it says,  “The Lord tests the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence Psalm 11:5 ESV.”  I believe saying you love to play violent video games is saying you love violence.  I also believe it is wrong to love violence even the way I do – even if it’s ridiculous and impossible.  I am wrong to like watching a woman beat up on a man – this is what I will confess is wrong about me.

I believe that giving hours to gaming – especially so many hours that it’s hard to wake up Sunday morning is wrong.  This means the focus is wrong.  The Bible says “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things Philippians 4:8 ESV.” 

If we choose to spend our time asking God what he wants us to do, then we would be doing things better.  The Bible says to “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is Ephesians 5:15-17 ESV.”  Colossians 3:1-3 Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. ² Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”

If we let ourselves sit before the TV and play violent games for hours, I believe we are going against Gods will.  It’s about focus; it’s about time, it’s about little choices that turn into habits.  Psalm 119:37 ESV says “Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things, and give me life in your ways.”  Can we say, “I checked off my God time today now I can do what I want to do?”  Isn’t all time God’s?  I know it feels like we have accomplished much if we did devotions but we can take those thoughts and continue them throughout the day.    

            I wouldn’t have to bring this up if it was only occasionally that people played games.  I wouldn’t have to bring this up if it wasn’t hours at a time but sometimes it is hours, and sometimes a person says they will do one thing but gets sidetracked by video games.  Or sometimes a person doesn’t say they will do anything – that person gets any task done quickly because the entire focus is getting things done so they can play games.  I have heard we could tell what an idol is if someone takes it away.  The Bible says 1 John 5:21 ESV “Little children, keep yourselves from idols.”  If video games weren’t an idol then telling the family to refrain for one day a week wouldn’t lead to a fight.

            Even that a person is willing to fight for video games shows to me that they need to refocus.  1 John 2:15-17 ESV “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”  It is not right to have to fight for time to focus more on God? 

            Do you think one could ever say (in good conscience), “Playing violent video games brings me closer to God?”  That’s ridiculous.  So think about it – shouldn’t we, 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22 “ test all things. Hold on to what is good. Stay away from every kind of evil.”  Proverbs 6:27 “Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?”  Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart above all else, for it is the source of life.

I don’t believe playing any video game is a sin.  I do believe that there are way better things that a Christian should be doing in their spare time. Things such as getting to know God better through prayer and in His Word.  I know we can’t do that every minute of every day and I know we do need some downtime.  So, yes, having an hour or two a day to wind down is fine but if a person’s entire focus is, “How fast can I get this done so I can go back to gaming?”  Or, maybe, “I don’t need a job – I have gaming.”  For those who are younger kids, then yes, educational games can be wonderful!  But for people who need to be productive in society – then gaming should be limited.  And I truly believe Sunday is a good day to take one day off – maybe not for your family, but this is what I wish for mine.

3/26/18

Dear Family,

            Ahhh, Spring break!  How exciting to have time!  To be able to finish projects or tackle some new ones.  I truly love the gift of time! 

            This week Bobby made a point to cook some yummy soup.  We enjoyed a meal as a family, and it’s fun just to be together.

            Tuesday night I was able to attend youth group when Bobby announced there would be no activities the next week.  One student found out he was leaving town and it was fun to hear, “Take me with you!”  I am glad the youth love Bobby that much.  (Or maybe it’s because they knew where he was going.)

            As Adriel and Bobby were packing, Adriel needed to have a conversation about a boy that she likes, and he likes her.  Bobby is bristling but knows he has to let go.  Adriel just wants to be able to hold this guy’s hand without Bobby freaking out.  Will there be murder on the Band trip this week?  We will have to find out.  Either way, it’s age appropriate to have a boyfriend at the age of 16.  How fun!

Seth was sad there was no youth group on Wednesday.  He likes learning about God.  I love it that he legitimately said, “Aww” in a sad way. 

            While Bobby and Adriel are in Hawaii with the band, Bobby and I planned Seth’s spring break to be special as well.  I wanted to video his reaction, but Seth said, “No.”  He likes his privacy.  Since this annoyed me, I said, “Fine, but I’m not telling you the exciting surprise until five minutes from now,” and put a timer on.  Seth started guessing, but I wouldn’t sway.  He lasted three minutes.  I enjoyed telling Seth he gets to buy a new computer.  Seth thanked Dad in an all-caps text, so that is very fun.  (The video cut’s Seth's head off, and I’m sure I’m not allowed to show it.)  Either way, Seth is excited about the package I will pick up Wednesday.

            I wanted Seth to take Karate out of the gratefulness of his heart.  He refuses, and that’s OK.  What is nice is that he did thank me for the opportunity even though he is saying no.  He can be very polite, and that is sweet.

One day Seth said, “It’s like someone gave Ripley a shot of adrenaline.”  My response is that people don’t randomly go out to the street and give cats shots.  Seth said, “Then how do you explain this behavior?”  Ripley was running around chasing air.  Later on, I checked her toys – yup, several have catnip in them.  That would do it!

This Sunday I was able to teach Sunday school.  The junior High Kids are wild even that early in the morning.  I was surprised!  Either way, that experience gave me an even greater appreciation for Bobby.  He has his hands full.

May you find joy knowing that Jesus came like an Undercover Boss and left us with the gift of salvation.  Jesus also set up a mentor program for us and left the Holy Spirit.  May you enjoy the beauty of flowers and the freshness of rain!  Much love J Cristy

           

4/19/18

Dear Family,

                We survived another week of school and work!  Doesn’t it feel that way sometimes?  We should get a medal just for doing the things we normally do – it’s so hard!  We could call in sick, we could – but we don’t and time flies.  I’m so excited about spring break.  I had several great times at work, and I do love the people I work with so – yes, it is good to continue to soldier on even if our bodies hurt and we feel tired.  “I did not come to be served, but to serve.” Mark 10:45.  With a great example like Jesus, we can know what the right thing is and do it.

                Bobby and I enjoyed a date this week.  It’s nice just to sit and be together.  He can be great company.  Bobby also cleaned out the dishwasher twice this week and it’s so nice when he helps – there’s so much to do!  Sometimes I don’t notice things – but this week I did – Bobby plays guitar very well.  I enjoy singing with him at youth group and home group.  How neat that he can have and use that talent. 

                Bobby also cooked several meals this week, and I enjoyed spending time with him afterward.  I also enjoyed taking pictures at a Nerf war with the Junior High group.  It is always super to get pictures of people smiling and laughing.

                Poor Adriel, she had a concert and was just exhausted.  I am proud of her for keeping on with all the activities she has.  I know teens have energy and I hope she continues to use hers for good.  Adriel also made a drawing for me.  Her creativity can be so beautiful and useful.  I am glad I will have a book illustrated by her.

                Seth laughed and laughed when Ripley brought in a dead bird because of my mixed emotions and mixed words.  “Good Job Ripley!  Oh, poor Birdie!”  I am glad she’s a killer – that’s her job, but – I was hoping for mice or rats.  Eeeek.  So Seth was laughing at my “Poor Birdie” part.  He held Ripley and told me I should, “Get rid of the bird before it starts stinking.”  So, I did.

                It was good that our whole family helped with the church clean up.  Dave Russell even told me later that he enjoyed having Seth help out.  I know that I’ll be cleaning more as I wait in the nursery for the babies to arrive. 

                Ripley gave me an illustration this week.  The poor girl is still young, she has no one to tell her right from wrong.  After the bird incident, I believe she decided that it’s fun to climb trees.  And, I suppose it is.  Ripley decided to climb a pine tree and had sap all over her paws and tail.  The poor kitty has no one to tell her that sap is just like sin.  If we follow our own path and it seems the right thing to do we don’t always know the consequences of our actions.  We don’t know until it’s too late that we made a bad decision.  We do notice when we are sticky, and we can’t do what we used to.  Ripley was subdued for about two days as she took her time getting sap out and as we helped her with oil on her feet (she did not like this).  I don’t think Ripley will make the same mistake with that tree again.

                May you continue to be strong for the tasks that lie ahead of you.  May you go and do good even if you don’t want to.  May you avoid the sticky situations of life.  May you find joy in the simple and in the seasons.  Much love,

Cristy

3/12/18

Dear Family,

            Have you ever decided, “They will never notice,” is a good reason to do something or . . . Not to.  I have often been baffled by how much my husband does notice.  He even notices things I sometimes don’t.  Once he mentioned, my chocolate chip cookies didn’t have brown sugar in them.  By golly he hit it spot on.  Even I didn’t notice that one – maybe they were a little more white.  All this to say that a couple of days after Seth so wonderfully mowed our back lawn.  I noticed he didn’t mow the front lawn.  I had him do it this week but had to chuckle when he said, “Awww, I thought you wouldn’t notice.”  I wonder if God laughs at our silly attempts at hiding.  I remember this child once had blackberries all over his mouth and face.  When his mom asked, “What have you been eating?”  He said, “Nothing.”  We all had to laugh.  Some things are just so obvious!

            Seth brought Ripley to me one day, and it just warms my heart that he gives me someone so soft and fuzzy.  Seth was thinking of me, and it was very sweet.

            Seth is now on rotation at church for the soundboard.  I wondered where he was.  When Bobby told me he was back there I looked behind me expecting to see an inch of the top of his head.  Seth has grown so much I saw his entire head!  How fun!  I am so glad he’s accepted a position of service at church. 

            Seth was playing games with friends online, and I had the Guardians of the Galaxy on loud while I worked in the kitchen.  He is located closer, so it was probably loud enough for his friends online to hear.  Seth said, “If you hear yelling, it’s a movie, not my parents.”  I had to add, “If you hear gunshots it’s also the movie, not your parents.”  We both had to chuckle about that one.  No one wants that much drama happening for real.

            Adriel has been drawing many things.  She is immensely creative, and I am very proud of her.

            Adriel had a class canceled (the teacher let them go), she came home made herself lunch and cleaned out the dishwasher all by herself.  This kind of thing gives me warm fuzzies all over!

            Bobby is very sweet about having me at youth group.  He thanks me for coming and is nice to me when I am there.  Homegroup is also a nice time.  We have fewer kids coming (the teens have stopped).  Because of this, we can talk more freely, and the food is much more abundant.  Nice!

            Bobby was able to take some time training with other leaders at Tapawingo.  He said it’s always nice to focus on God’s word.  I also enjoy reading God’s word and learning what He cares about. 

May you enjoy reading His letter to us.  May you find joy knowing that the creator of the universe loves you and is reaching out, inviting you to be his friend.

            Much Love J Cristy

3/5/18

Dear Family,

                Being great full for the mundane is a precious treasure.  I can think back and smile knowing that although this week didn’t shine in newness, it did have peace and strength. 

                Adriel brought me shopping, and it was fun to hear her stories and know that she is doing well.  I know she lives with us still but spending time together is special until it’s past my bedtime (7 PM).  Then I want to die, but I promised myself I wouldn’t be that parent.  I would talk and talk as a teen, and I remember my dad would say, “OK, that’s wonderful, it’s 10 PM, time to go watch the news.”  I remember bristling!  How could anything be more important than ME!  So, I try to be there when a story is wrapping up.  I try not to whine and beg to go to bed.  I try.

                Adriel brought some friends over.  I am glad she feels comfortable to do so.  I was also glad to have them over because I was cooking cupcakes and needed help eating them.  Yeah for teens!

                Adriel was able to babysit this Friday at our house, and it is fun to hear chipmunk voices.  Little ones are so dramatic!  It is fun to hear Adriel in the parental role saying, “Calm down,” or, “I’m going to fix your food now.”  She’s a great caretaker, and the kids love her – although one did say, “I love my blanket so much, I even love it more than you!”

                Seth remains generous with his computer.  He is such a blessing to Adriel, and I love that he shares what is truly his thru and thru.  He is also taking apart computers trying to make her one that works for her.  I love that he is thinking about her and trying to get her back on her feet. 

Seth redid some homework.  I am very glad he cares about getting things done right.  Seth also mowed the lawn and helped move some broken concrete.  He’s strong enough, and that’s neat!

                Bobby cooked yummy food this week, and it’s always a blessing to sit and eat together.  Bobby continues to make the bed, and this is a blessing to me.

                You know, I started writing this thinking – meh – not too exciting.  But after writing these things in detail, I feel blessed!  God continues to grow our family.  The kids are getting taller, more mature.  Bobby and I are growing more and more in love each day.  We aren’t stupid in love anymore, we are strong in love, and it’s great.

                This Sunday I was able to hear Greg Denny give a wonderful sermon that made me think.  So, Ephesians 1:3-4 says that God loves us even before he created the world.  This reminds me of our babies and my kitten.  We prepared the nursery for the kids with great anticipation.  I bought a special door so that I could have a cat door.  We dreamed of what it would be like to have our kids, and I dreamed what it would be like to have kittens.  Anyway, I love Ripley more than any other cat I had.  This is probably because I waited months if not years for her.  I know God loves us way more than we love our kids and I love our cat.  It’s pretty cool.  May you feel as loved as you are my family.

Much Love J Cristy